Bryan was a great man. A brilliant example of what a grandfather should be. Caring, compassionate, strong and funny. Always there for his grandchildren since day one. He never left our sides, and he loved us dearly. We were raised in his image – thoughtful, touching, and confident. He will live on inside us forever.
While other children were watching Sesame Street and Polka Dot Door, we were watching The Benny Hill Show, Faulty Towers, and Matlock. John Cleese and Eric Idle had more of an impact on our “upbring” than any other random celebrity you can think of. Laurel & Hardy take the cake though; his favourite episode was “Way out West” – get on the mule.
“Me teeth keep sliding down”.
The Chevy Silverado was his baby. Filled with tools, and general fixer-upper stuff underneath the gold and maroon cab, the license plate read “BRYANZ”. Too hilarious.
“Would you like to swing on a star” – Frank Sinatra
Fear-factor as a child:
“Please don’t take off your glasses when you’re mad, please don’t do it” we mutter to ourselves. Grandad takes off his glasses, and we run screaming. Now if that’s the cheapest and most effective way to get the kids to stop horsing around and eat their vegetables, he pretty much wrote the very “short” book on parenting.
In the later years for Bryan, he had many miraculous recoveries under his belt. Having outlived his brothers and mother who suffered from mild to medium heart disease, in the end it was a heart attack that claimed the lives of his brothers Kenneth and Fred in England. Despite that Bryan himself has had 3 heart attacks, 5-6 strokes, an embolism, and two hernia operations, he was still out riding around on his scooter, or his bright yellow Mielli bicycle. Memories of him barbecuing with a white chef’s hat and tall apron listening to swing and wartime musicals outside his summer trailor with his wife, my nana Florence while us kids ran around like crazy playing horseshoes. What about his addiction to Bugs Bunny and the Simpsons? Wash it all down with an ice-cold Dave’s Honey Brown Lager – his thing. His short and timeless acting career was pretty cool too. Standing in denim overalls with my older brother Sasha in the town of “Oshcosh” in the popular 80’s movie about the life of Terry Fox, as well as an appearance in Recruits, and hilarious home movie “We are the People of Earth” filmed out by the waterworks in East Toronto. His perfect yellow speedboat on Lake Ontario, his red and white striped swimming trunks, and his Overkill volleyball hat. He was a dude in every sense of the word. A debilitating stroke in his right brain would send his left side into a wild panic and paralyzing shock in 2007. From this he made an incredible attempt at recovery, and vowing he’d walk again. And he did. The past 6 months were very painful though. He was battling many complications with circulation in his legs, feet, and ultimately these ailments would dictate the future. He was no doubt a fighter, and although sadness consumes us all, we are fortunate to learn that he’s hanging out with his brothers once again. As I think back to our childhood while growing up into adults, I am reminded that each of us, Sasha, Jake and I, all had a very different relationship with our grandfather. This seldom happens in families, and that’s why it’s so magical. We love you, we miss you, and we will cherish these memories forever. By the way, thanks for building Sasha a go-kart, Jake a playhouse which turned into your tool shed, and letting me always style your hair at the dinner table.
MOTE, Bryan Arthur —
June 27, 1923 – March 15, 2010
Beloved husband to Florence; devoted father to Carol and Linda; cherished grandfather of Sasha and Lucy Dolgy (Qatar), Lauren Mote-Dolgy (Vancouver) and Jake Dolgy (Toronto); great-grandfather to Jack Dolgy; dear brother-in-law of Joan Trotman (Belleville); Vin
Griffiths and Mary Osborn (Wednesfield, UK) and loving companion to pets Candy and Baby, passed peacefully this morning in Belleville, Ontario. Bryan will be remembered as an honoured WWII Veteran (RAF), a friend to his countrymen and a gentleman of the highest order. Special thanks to the kind and loving staff at Belmont Long Term Care in Belleville. A private family service to be held later this week at Belleville Cemetery and Crematorium. Donations to the OSPCA or Humane Society International in Bryan’s name would be most welcome.